Tulisan tahun lalu, beberapa bulan sebelum hamil 😀
Indonesian people have a special interest in other people’s life. Sometimes too much.
- “Have you got any boyfriend/girlfriend?”
- “When are you going to get married?”
- “Are you pregnant yet?”
- “When will you give your child siblings?”
I have passed the moment when people asked me the first two questions.
However, they are now shifting to the question number three.
Deep inside, I have a mixed feeling about this.
My husband and I prefer to enjoy the first year without baby, just the two of us.
But we aren’t delaying it.
If I get pregnant during the first year, it’s a blessing.
But I know that both of us are not ready yet. It is a big and serious responsibility. We just need a little bit time to be prepared mentally.
However, the pressures bothered me a lot. The questions keep on coming from many, along with some beliefs on the consequences of delaying the pregnancy.
I know that it was some kind of positive attention, that it wasn’t intended to pressure me or anything, but it does the opposite. It put me under a lot of pressure.
My husband will study abroad next year and I want to accompany him. I want to get pregnant and give birth when I am close to him.
I want to have baby when I am ready and no one can force me when I am not.
So, let’s be patient and reply the third question politely.
think about this issue: Mind your own womb.